Powerless

So I've been reading that YOU: On A Diet book still.  Just read a paragraph that talked about the emotional aspects of being overweight and allowing food to have power over you because you feel powerless in other aspects of your life.  For me that hits the nail right on the head.  I feel powerless in, well sheesh, almost every aspect of my life.  I won't go into all the gory details, just know that there are gory details, this isn't just a "woe is me, see how miserable my life is, feel sorry for me" list...but here are some of the ways I feel powerless in my life, and I'm sure there are many more.

I feel powerless to keep the house clean and organized. 

I feel powerless to get my children to behave in a remotely appropriate manner. 

I feel powerless to get my son to eat normally. 

I feel powerless to help my son with his significant focus and attention issues in ways that don't include medicaton.

I feel powerless to find a way to contribute to my family financially in a way that I actually enjoy and have passion for doing.

I feel powerless to raise my family in a way more similar to my own, so that they are grounded and value things in a way that is different from the southern california mindset.

I feel powerless against my own thoughts that have always told me I'm not good enough, likeable enough, pretty enough, thin enough, etc.

I feel powerless against my own body, with its addiction to sugar and aches and pains and other afflictions that leave me feeling "off" all the time.

Of course I'm going to allow food to have power over me, everything else does.  It wouldn't make sense for me to have control over food, but not over anything else in my life.  The reasons I feel powerless are so encompassing and oppressive, I'm not sure how to not feel that way.  Somehow, the food part has to change though, weight loss will never happen for me if it doesn't.